PARENTING GIFTED KIDS
WHAT IS GRIT?
Grit is the perseverance and passion for long term goals. It means:
- Working strenuously toward challenges.
- Maintaining effort and interest over years
- Overcome failure, adversity, and plateaus in progress
Understand that grit exists
Understand that the ability to learn can improve with effort
Pursue your passion
Build in practice time.
Learn from examples of people who overcame failure
Focus on the process instead of just the end product
Visualize goal and obstacles that might pop up along the way
Have a plan for dealing with obstacles
Periodically review progress and make adjustments
FOR PARENTS TO THINK ABOUT
GRIT TIP #1: Put a challenge in front of your child.
Many gifted children have difficulty with risk taking. Encourage your child to try something new that is difficult for him/her. Remember, if your child never has a chance to deal with something difficult, he/she will never develop the confidence to overcome challenges.
Grit Tip #2 Promote perseverance.
Make sure your child understands that even naturally gifted people have to work hard to hone their ability with hours of practice. Follow the rule, “Don’t Quit on a Bad Day”. Giving up as soon as things get frustrating may mean you could miss out on that “break-through” moment! Try to follow through on activities at least until the end of the season or session.
Grit Tip #3: Promote a growth mindset.
Remind your child that there is always something new to learn and improve upon. Success will depend on sustained effort.
Many gifted students have "emotional intensities". They may react very strongly, especially when frustrated. Following you will find some of the emotional vocabulary we use in class that may be helpful for you at home as well.
WHEN THINGS ARE HARD
- Mistakes and frustration and a part of life (from 10 Things Every Scientist and Mathematician Should Know)
- Your brain isn't growing new connections when things are easy
- Self-efficacy: the belief that you can conquer challenges through hard work and your strategies
- Metacognition: thinking about what you are doing. What strategies are you using? Are these strategies working for you? What could you try instead?
- Control resources of time, study environment, and using peers/adults to help you
- Increase self-efficacy and deal with stress/emotions that interfere with learning
HANDLING OVERWHELMING FEELINGS
- When your amygdala takes over, how can you get your frontal lobe back in charge?
POSITIVE HABITS OF MIND:
- Metacognition-thinking about what you are doing. What strategies are you using? Are these strategies working for you? What could you try instead?
- Engage intensely especially when answers are not immediately apparent.
- Make and carry out a plan using necessary resources.
- Edgate Special Education and Gifted Center
- The Gifted Association of Missouri
- National Association for Gifted Children
- National Research Center on the Gifted and Talented and then click on the link to National Research Center on the Gifted and Talented
- Supporting Emotional Needs of Gifted
- Survival Guide for Parents of Gifted Kids by Sally Yahnke
- When Gifted Kids Don’t Have All the Answers by Jim Delisle and Judy Galbraith
- Guiding the Gifted Child by James T. Webb